Why ‘the’ obvious lessons never work

  • You won’t really learn obvious lessons until you’ve done the mistakes yourself.
  • Focus on one project at a time.
  • Don’t be afraid to fail.
  • Fall down 7 times, get up 8.
  • People come before anything else.
  • Treat people the way you’d like to be treated.
  • Don’t wait for the perfect time, start now.
  • Etc.

We all know all these obvious lessons. Why don’t we all abide my them? Why does it take years until some become part of our system? I’ve come to realize that they’re a huge difference between two edges. The first edge is knowing and accepting these obvious lessons. Having these obvious lessons as part of our belief system is the second edge.

We all know about Jesus, Buddha, Muhammad, and so on. But one or none of these religious figures is part of our belief system. We will not act according to the teachings of any one of these religious figures, until one of them becomes part of our belief system. And I’m not advocating adopting one religion. I’m only using religion because it’s an example we can all identify with. I at the moment, adopt none.

That’s the challenge. Adopting obvious lessons as part of our belief system doesn’t happen on a rational level. It takes a strong emotional experience. A huge failure perhaps. Or a loved one turning their back on us. Or a life changing lost opportunity. Or someone close truly appeals to our emotions. The problem is obvious, those of us who have experienced these obvious lessons on an emotional level, go on to share them on a rational level. It never works this way.

Belief systems or world views are always amended on an emotional level. That’s why you won’t really learn obvious lessons until you’ve done the mistake yourself.

Please share with me your experience in the comments.

Yours,
Will

Twitter @williamchoukeir

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