Are you under the illusion that you’re choosing your opportunities?


Did you chose your opportunities? Or did they chose you.

Most of my life I’ve spent, reacting; to opportunities.

When the coolest girl in school showed interest (2 years older than me), I grabbed the opportunity. I later spent 2 years heartbroken.

When filling out my university application, my uncle said: “Go into architecture, you’ll have a place at my company.” I grabbed it. I later doubled-major with graphic design. I finished architecture, but dropped out at the last mile.

When I got my first freelance project, I said yes. 11 years later, I’m still reacting to incoming projects.

When Anna said: “Come to India with us to the Meditation Center, for a month.” I jumped at the opportunity.

When Patricia invited me to organize TEDxBeirut, I said yes. Best experience of my life.

Would I have set out to do any of these if the opportunities didn’t come my way? No. Is that a problem? No. Do I regret any of it? Nope. What’s the problem then?

The problem is that I reacted. With each opportunity that came my way, I set myself down a long path. A path I didn’t necessarily want to be on in a few years.

Rather than me choosing the path, and spotting the opportunities that take me down that path, I did the opposite. I reacted to the opportunities without any vision of a path. These opportunities chose the path for me.

Enough. I’m choosing my own path now. I’m saying no to most opportunities so I can create enough void and free time. So I could escape the ‘reacting’ mindset. So I could choose my own path. I could later divert into another path. At least I’d know it’s my choice.

The rest of my life I’m spending handpicking or creating my opportunities. You?


Twitter @williamchoukeir

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2 Responses to Are you under the illusion that you’re choosing your opportunities?

  1. Sara Sibai says:

    No no no no no I’m not ready to read this…wait…just wait a minute…ugh…you just had to throw it at me didn’t you…ouch.Ok…gotta think about this. think. think. think.

  2. will says:

    Write back Sara once you’re done thinking. I’d love to read your thoughts.

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