Did you chose your opportunities? Or did they chose you.
Most of my life I’ve spent, reacting; to opportunities.
When the coolest girl in school showed interest (2 years older than me), I grabbed the opportunity. I later spent 2 years heartbroken.
When filling out my university application, my uncle said: “Go into architecture, you’ll have a place at my company.” I grabbed it. I later doubled-major with graphic design. I finished architecture, but dropped out at the last mile.
When I got my first freelance project, I said yes. 11 years later, I’m still reacting to incoming projects.
When Anna said: “Come to India with us to the Meditation Center, for a month.” I jumped at the opportunity.
When Patricia invited me to organize TEDxBeirut, I said yes. Best experience of my life.
Would I have set out to do any of these if the opportunities didn’t come my way? No. Is that a problem? No. Do I regret any of it? Nope. What’s the problem then?
The problem is that I reacted. With each opportunity that came my way, I set myself down a long path. A path I didn’t necessarily want to be on in a few years.
Rather than me choosing the path, and spotting the opportunities that take me down that path, I did the opposite. I reacted to the opportunities without any vision of a path. These opportunities chose the path for me.
Enough. I’m choosing my own path now. I’m saying no to most opportunities so I can create enough void and free time. So I could escape the ‘reacting’ mindset. So I could choose my own path. I could later divert into another path. At least I’d know it’s my choice.
The rest of my life I’m spending handpicking or creating my opportunities. You?