There’s no “That’s how I am.”
There’s how everything around you made you without your awareness. And there’s how you consciously made yourself. These are the two things that most make you.
I was having a dream. I’m in a little cabin with a nice lady. A friend of mine is there too. The lady is standing just outside the door on the porch. My friend is standing a the door, leaning left on his hand. I’m watching them from inside, the light from outside glows her golden hair, and makes a silhouette of the rest of them.
“Warm Italian spaghetti topped with a lush tomato sauce and a hint of basil. A cold glass of wine, and strawberry cheesecake for a sweet end.” My friend tells the lady, just out of nowhere.
Her face lights up, “I’m starving!” she replies.
I never did that. Well maybe when I’m asking a girl out the first time. I usually shout out to Hanane from one corner of the studio “I’m hungry, you?” That’s not how I am.
That’s how everything around me made me. I can change that. I like the approach of my friend in the dream. I’ll change my habit. I’ve done that countless times. How I am right now is not how I was 10 years ago.
10 years ago, 80% of me was because of how everything around me made me. Today 80% percent of me is how I consciously made myself. Habit change is all it takes. One tiny habit at a time.
I like today’s me better. You?