I try to avoid these 6 problem-inviting words

Words I try to avoid, except when demonstrating. In parenthesis are possible alternatives, followed by examples:

Thing/Stuff (Name that thing)
Rather than “There’s one thing I want to talk you about.”
Try “there’s one issue/idea/obstacle/person/concern/planet/project I want to talk to you about.”
More often than not, when I use ‘thing’ I usually don’t fully understand what I’m talking about myself; I’m vague even to myself.

Should (might/do you mind/could followed by ‘because’)
Rather than “You should send that email today.”
Try “You might want to send that email today because”
Or “Do you mind sending that email today because”
Or “Could send that email today because”

Always/Every time (Sometimes preceded by ‘consequence’ followed by ‘because’)
Rather than “You always do this.”
Try “It hurts me when you sometimes do this because”

Never (Rarely/Try to avoid/Usually followed by ‘because’)
Rather than “I never eat sugar because”
Try “I rarely eat sugar because”
Or “I try to avoid sugar because”
Or “I don’t usually eat sugar because”

You should also mix and match between the last two things depending on context. Oups. I mean:
It’s also possible to mix and match between the examples of the last two words depending on context.

If you’ve faced similar things, or know the reasoning behind these stuff, please share them in the comments.

Yours,
Will

Twitter: @williamchoukeir

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One Response to I try to avoid these 6 problem-inviting words

  1. Farah Hinnawi says:

    things .. i mean .. ideas that we do not usually pay attention to .. but are very important for communicationthanks for sharing :))

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