Andrew Bossone asked after reading part 1: “would you say the ego is a part of us or is a separate entity? if the absence of ego reveals our true self, then are we inauthentic with it?” the truly wonderful thing is that I had written the answer below, before reading his question. and I believe they’re a perfect match. thank you Andrew.
how do you feel when you act on your ego? good? how do you feel when you don’t act on your ego? does it feel bad? is it hard?
very simply, when you act on your ego, you steal the energy of the other person. and you feel better. when you don’t, you feel not-ok. and this makes it very hard to ignore what the ego is telling you; you’ll know you’ll feel better if you act on your ego. and you also know that the other person will feel worst.
and because the other person will feel worst when you act on your ego and steal his energy, he will, in turn act on his ego and try to steal his energy back from you. this is when you say to him: “do you know that you’re acting out of ego? just stop it. ignore your ego.” and this is only your ego playing it’s trick on your friend so you can keep the energy you stole from him. let’s take another case.
take the case of someone egotistically bragging about himself: “I’m the best in …, I single handedly saved the situation, I caused this and this to happen with no help, if it weren’t for me…”
you might think there’s no harm to others when someone is bragging this way. you might think he’s only harming himself. and you know that’s not true. when he brags that he’s the best, that means that this gives the impression that others suck, which of course isn’t the case. but it bothers all those who do actually deserve credit, or are just as good. and this way, he sucks the energy of this crowd. when he pretends that he single handedly did something, he steals credit from those who did help. this sucks energy from them.
“if it wasn’t for me.” makes him the center of attention, causing him to suck all the energy of the crowd. and those who deserve part of that energy because of their achievements and contribution, end up having this energy stolen from them. would they feel now that they should act, and get back their energy, and maybe more? I believe that’s highly likely.
ego is nothing but the name given to this theft of energy that we are ll guilty of. ego is us. ego is our minds finding ways to steal ever more energy, and justifying it to ourselves so that we can sleep better at night.
this is the era of the energy thieves.
we have all been raised in a culture that teaches us that stealing is wrong. and as a result, we’re always living in denial. we deny from ourselves that we are thieves. we have to justify to our own conscience that we’re not stealing. we must never find out that we’re thieves ourselves. and so, we blame it on invented evil “entity” that no one understands. we call it ego. and we pretend that we ARE good, but controlled by this ego. we claim it treacherous, foxy, and cunning. we pretend that we’re unable to leave it’s grasp. and all these are even more excuses that we use, so that we would never have to admit to ourselves that we are thieves. there’s no ego. there’s only us. living in denial.
once you accept this, and once you stop blaming a non-existent entity, only then do you take the first step to getting rid of ego. otherwise, you can never get rid of something that doesn’t exist. stop blaming ego. take responsibility for the energy you steal. apologize. and allow the other person to recall his energy.
(next, in part 3 we’ll cover how the actions we do when we’re alone, are arrows we make an store in our quiver. and how we use these arrows later on to shoot others, steal their energy, and how that is related to ego. see you in part 3)
p.s. soon: this is the era of the energy thieves. masked as ego, revenge, honor, and pride. with the end of the tribal culture and the rise of the city culture, we switched from one state of acquiring energy to another. and this, I believe, is the core problem of the world today.