the destructive power of stealing energy, and what to do about it? -or how to get a life- (part 1 of 2) — ENE102a

I was chatting with a friend over tea. it seemed that whenever she got together with her boyfriend, things went down the drain. she was telling me how they’re both stressed out, and how they try to take it out on each other all the time. which by itself creates more stress.

they’re both exhausted emotionally, and have a very low level of energy. no matter how they try to resolve their arguments, it won’t work. because the problem in the first place isn’t in the relationship itself.

relationships are all about energy. people get together and exchange energy. my friend and her boyfriend both have a very low energy level. when they get together, all they do is try to steal each others’ energy. and since they both have very little energy to spare, and both are attempting to steal, an argument is unavoidable.

lets assume another scenario, where my friend has a very high energy level, and her partner a low energy level. when they get together, her partner will try to steal her energy.  and because she has a lot energy to spare, and she gives it willingly. they balance each other out. she ends up with lower energy and feeling less happy, and her partner leaves with higher energy, and feeling better. if my friend isn’t generating a lot of energy when she’s away from her boyfriend, the next time when they together, there will definitely be a clash. the boyfriend is disappointed, trying to steal energy that doesn’t exist, and now she’s also trying to steal his, again, to compensate for hers.

the worst part of this, is that it creates a dependency. it creates an attachment that’s intensely painful when broken. if the only source of energy for boyfriend is her, then what happens when she travels, or when she’s away for a little while. where does he get his energy from? he has so little energy, he won’t even bother figuring out other sources. he’ll feel pain, loneliness, ‘missing’, he’ll demand that she comes back, he’ll eat a lot, and sleep all the time, hoping this will compensate for missing energy. of course it doesn’t. that only feeds the body. ultimately this can lead to being overly possessive, jealous, depressed, and possibly, physically violent.

the best possible scenario in any relationship is where both couples have a lot of energy to spare, and when they get together, no one tries to steal. instead, they share, they give, they exchange, they grow into each other. and amazingly this creates an explosive atmosphere of energy. the energy that they both came in with multiplies exponentially. they both have an experience that takes their breath away. it feels like paradise. it is. and they both end up with an energy tenfold more than they came in with, and also a different, higher, more vibrant quality. and an experience that’s out of this world.

you have to be aware here. what made this magical experience happen, is that both people came in with lots of energy to spare. and for this to work every time, they both need to come in with that much energy. they can make the mistake of relying on each other for energy, and cut off from the sources that fueled them with the high level of energy. this is the beginning of the end of that relationship. because, with no other energy sources but each other, the collective energy will ultimately drain out. fast. and the fight for energy begins again.

this is why, it’s vital that you keep your energy level high at all times. it’s vital that you don’t cut off from your different energy sources. and it’s ultimately destructive to rely one person, as your source. destructive for both of you.

what to do about it? how do you prevent someone from stealing your energy? how you prevent yourself from stealing someone else’s energy? how do you raise your energy level if you have none in the first place? where to get energy from? the single most overlooked habit that makes you ‘think’ you’re raising your energy. and how to keep your energy high, and get real signs when it’s falling? continue to part 2 — ENE102b

yours, will

twitter: @williamchoukeir

p.s highly related: you/him/her: I’m sick of doing it your way, I want us to do it my way — ENE101


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16 Responses to the destructive power of stealing energy, and what to do about it? -or how to get a life- (part 1 of 2) — ENE102a

  1. Anonymous says:

    Very true Will.I feel that is very hard to have a high energy and to find someone with high energy and not steal it from them. I think sometimes, what attracts people to the other is this high energy. This charisma lets say or maybe "happiness". It is really attractive. Maybe the attraction happens just to be able to experience this energy.How can these people with high energy protect themselves from being depleted?How can these people with low energy protect themselves from being addicted? best,Sherif

  2. Anonymous says:

    "How can these people with high energy protect themselves from being depleted?How can these people with low energy protect themselves from being addicted?"perfect questions. will cover those is part 2. thanks sherif

  3. Anonymous says:

    William, one question: are you an angel?awaiting part 2..and have a very merry christmas time 😀

  4. Anonymous says:

    lina, i think everyone is an angel. some are pretending not to be. i see the angel in you. thank you so much

  5. Hind says:

    Wow I was talking about this with a friend of mine..few months ago, we were discussing the energy stealing and how people can steal your energy…and she agreed because she was dating someone and she was a happy person and it’s like he stole her energy and now he is the happy one!but I don’t know how we can protect ourselves(other than staying away from people with low energy which sounds cruel somehow..don’t know).. I just know how to raise it again.that’s why I Can’t wait for the 2nd part to know how to protect myself!PS.I guess I tried to steal your energy once.Thanks William!

  6. hanane says:

    yalla, i want the part two!

  7. ameena says:

    you amaze me! this is exactly what really goes on. even if the couple have tons of obstacles facing them… if they both have high energy, then they can get through them easier, better, and happier. It’s not about how many problems we have in life, but the energy we have to face them!

  8. Anonymous says:

    <html><body bgcolor="#FFFFFF"><div>thanks ameena. what you said is very true. part 2 is coming up today 🙂 If my family stops interrupting me (my sisters' wedding today :-)<br><br><br></div><div><br></div></body></html>

  9. amal wazir says:

    will, love ur work! luv ur cuz sabine too 🙂 she’s spread ur word and so have i – wishing u the best in ur adventures! keep up the great stuff 🙂

  10. Anonymous says:

    One thing: not sure if it is that black & white.I mean that the same person could be an energy taker in one relationship, and energy giver in another relationship…And sometimes, even if both people who are in the relationship have a lot of energy, both of them, they can count on each others energies, if one is feeling down, and low of energy, he can count on the other to pick him up, and vice versa, the exchange of energy is possible, as long as it is balanced, and equal…But at the end of the day, what is energy?

  11. Anonymous says:

    <html><head></head><body style="word-wrap: break-word; -webkit-nbsp-mode: space; -webkit-line-break: after-white-space; "><div>thanks so much amal. i luv sabine so much, just as well. :-)</div><div>i thank her for spreading openness and sharing.</div><div>and i thank you for reading and being part of this culture.</div><div>it’s comment like yours that make want to share even more.</div><br><div><div></div></div></body></html>

  12. Anonymous says:

    <html><head></head><body style="word-wrap: break-word; -webkit-nbsp-mode: space; -webkit-line-break: after-white-space; "><div>you’re absolutely right patsy. it’s not only black &amp; white. and the scenarios you shared do exist. thank you for adding to the collective knowledge of this note. i generally like to give extremes as examples to make sure that i get a point across as sharply as possible. and i count on feedback like yours to place my notes in real life circumstances. in part 2, i cover a bit scenarios like the ones you shared in your comment. thanks always, will.</div><div><br></div><div><div></div></div></body></html>

  13. roy says:

    hey william,very nice article…moving to part 2 now

  14. Anonymous says:

    <html><body bgcolor="#FFFFFF"><div>thanks lovely roy! :-D<span class="Apple-style-span" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.292969); -webkit-composition-fill-color: rgba(175, 192, 227, 0.230469); -webkit-composition-frame-color: rgba(77, 128, 180, 0.230469);"><br> </span></div><div></div><blockquote type="cite"><div> <div style="width: 600px; font-size: 12px; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 18px;" class="PosterousEmail"></div></div></body></html>

  15. ameena says:

    i’ve read part 2 and this keeps making more sense! oh and happy new year!

  16. Anonymous says:

    <html><body bgcolor="#FFFFFF"><div>thank you ameena :-)</div><div>great year and life thereafter to you just as well!<br></div><div></div><blockquote type="cite"><div> <div style="width: 600px; font-size: 12px; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 18px;" class="PosterousEmail"></div></div></body></html>

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